Managing your dating profile headshot avatar’s message is so critical. A picture is worth a thousand words, does yours say you are more feminine or more masculine?
As you may have seen in a recently in Commitment Connection, for women, “The more masculine energy you put out, the more feminine of a guy you’ll attract. The more feminine energy you put out, the more of a masculine guy you will attract.”
This naturally applies contrariwise for men.
That is, the more masculine energy you put out, the more feminine of a woman you’ll attract. The more feminine energy you put out, the more of a masculine woman you will attract.
Each picture carries hundreds of conscious and unconscious messages.
Messages in Dating Headshots
- Approachable or Distant
- Friendly or Shy
- Sexy or Reserved
- Elegant or Down to Earth
- Fun or Grumpy
- Angry or Sweet
- Masculine or Feminine
- Aggressive or Reserved
- Stylish or Casual
- Smart or Ignorant
- Pleasant or Sour
This is not an exhaustive list. People consciously and unconsciously search through dating sites and dating apps, like Tinder, Blender, Bumble, POF (Plenty of Fish), eHarmony, Alt, and so on.
Most people, according to recent random surveys on Google+, about a third of people now will see your profile dating headshot photo before ever meeting, or deciding to meet you. 80% felt a professional headshot was as important or more so in the current times of readily available smart phone and digital cameras. Over two thirds of daters have seen dating headshot profile photos first, before having met their dates.
Clearly, your dating headshot’s messages about you are important when so many use your profile photos and dating and social media headshot photos on deciding whether to engage with you.
Best ways to manage your Dating and Social Media Headshot Messages
- Decide who you are, your message should be authentic
- Decide who you would like to attract, target your message to this audience
- Select your wardrobe and background to hone your message
- Select your photographer for their ability to express clear messages about their clients through their headshots
- Look like yourself, however, do look your best
- Devote enough time and treasure to craft your headshot and it’s message according to its importance to your dating life and future
Authenticity of your Dating Headshot’s Message
This message is about you. If you are not honest and authentic in your message, the people you attract will not be good matches for the person you really are.
Being real about who you are will ultimately serve you best.
Target your headshot’s message to whom you would like to attract
This requires some sole searching and perhaps a dating coach, or talks with friends.
Be honest with yourself about whom you would like to attract. Once you know this, be thoughtful about what is attractive to this person.
For example, if you wish to attract a sports fan, maybe wear a football jersey. A small wardrobe choice like this will target your message, turning on sports fans, and as importantly turning off those not sports fans.
Selecting your Dating Headshot Photographer
Look for photographers whose headshots speak to you. By this we mean that the photographers portfolio of dating headshots show some feeling and character about the person whom you are looking at.
A good headshot doesn’t just show you what a person looks like, it shows you photo of the person, which is clearly recognizable as the person, looking their best, while also telling you something about the person. Once you’ve decided whom you will like to attract, be sure to share with your photographer a good bit about yourself and the messages you’ll like to craft into your headshot.
What should a photographers headshot portfolios tell you about the person portrayed?
- It should look like the person looking their best
- It should tell you something about the person, by context and by expression, which helps you decide if this person would or would not be your type
When we meet people in public, and they smile at us, we immediately get the kind of information a good headshot provides. Do we like this person enough to wish to talk with them further about maybe getting to know them better over a date or beverage.
Depending on your market, expect to invest several hundred dollars, or a bit more, for the better headshot photography experiences and outcomes.
Your headshot is the front doorway to meeting you and creating a life with you. People assume you realize this and have put the effort into your headshot you would into a first date.
Invest your time and treasure accordingly into your future and you will be amazed at how much your social and dating lives will improve.